Category: Life

change is coming.  it is always coming –every day, every week, every month, every year.  and sometimes you know in your gut that change is near –that bigger change is near.  you must not be afraid of this change.  you must realize that this change is meant to happen.  you must not fear what happens when this change occurs.  you must know that no matter what change happens, you are always prepared because change cannot affect who you are –it can only affect what happens to you.  who you are will always stand above the change.  this will help keep you grounded and in control when the change happens.  this will help move you through the change and into the next part of your life –which will come after the change.  change always requires extra work on your part.  you need to think more outside the box.  you need to think outside your routine.  you need to rely more on your inherent survival skills.  your natural reactions to the change will guide you through the early part of the change process –you don’t have to worry about how you will react to change immediately.  change is good because it forces you to grow stronger and to learn new things.  embrace change and do not be afraid.

markers are spots throughout your life that you can look back on to remember the good times.  these would be events or trips that you plan specifically to have fun and enjoy life.  the markers are the times when you step away from the every day normal routine and do something that brings a thrill to your soul –putting goosebumps on your skin.  these are times that you will never forget –times that you anticipate with baited breath –times that make you say “wow’!  you know what i mean –it is that girl’s trip or guy’s trip that you make where all daily worries fade away for a few days –where you rip it up and toss caution into the wind –when you stop and smell the roses every minute.  you need these markers in life or you really won’t be living a life.  markers get you through the daily BS –they get you to the next year, the next week, the next day.  make room for marker events in your life otherwise you will live a dull life and die a slow, boring death.  you need markers throughout life and you definitely need them at the end so that you can look back and say “yes”.  get busy planning and living.

there are so many instances in life where we come up with what we think are great ideas. we think that we need to act on these ideas.  we think that we need to fulfill our destiny by acting on these ideas.  we think that these ideas will take us away from the mundane lives we live and to the place where we will love what we do.  these are our dreams and we want to make them come true.  we see our life being full and satisfied.  we see a rainbow at the end of the tunnel.  we see closure in life being achieved.  but the problem is we don’t act on these thoughts.  we don’t act on these ideas.  we don’t act on these dreams.  we don’t act because we are afraid.  we don’t act because we are comfortable in our life and we don’t want to risk this level of comfort we have achieved.  we don’t act because we want the dream to come true, but don’t quite believe it is the path we should take.  we have doubt about going out on a limb.  so we don’t act.  we just dream.  and then we get old and die.  dream unfulfilled, but comfort kept intact.  what is more important at the end of the road –staying comfortable or taking risk and possibly fulfilling dream?  most will choose former –what will you choose?

facebook!  who gave you permission to record my life?  who are you?  how did you get involved in my life?  you act as a meeting place where friends and family can gather.  you put up the front of being a familiar place -like my old high school, my old neighborhood, my old house –so very comfortable and soothing.  this is all a front to record my life and pull me in to present my life to my friends and family–but also to you.  you are watching my every move.  you are recording my every moment.  you are now in my life and are actually recording my life.  stop recording my life.  you should not be recording my life.  who gave you permission?  because i use your platform to talk to friends, you think you can take my data and record it back to me.  i will record my own life and i will leave my own mark the way i want to leave it.  i will not conform the story of my life to your parameters.  where is the button to turn off this “timeline” thing?  this is your master plan.  gather, gather, gather –then publish my life and billions of others.  get out of our lives and stop recording now — pause the program.

you know what i mean?  not really??  ok –listen closely.  you know how most of the time you shouldn’t do things?  this could be because you shouldn’t waste the money or the time, right?  you need to save the money for a rainy day.  you need to be more conservative in your actions so that you are covered in the future.  that is all good –and is true for the most part.  but guess what?  you could drop dead tomorrow.  and you will know folks that do just that….too soon.  and each time someone does, you need to remind yourself that could have been you.  and all the fretting about not doing something because your shouldn’t –that all goes out the window.  so when you decide to throw that big bash at your house, but you could use the money for something else.  think about how you could drop dead tomorrow.  think about how you want to look back and say we had the most fun spending the money, when we shouldn’t have.  someone said all we really have is this moment right now.  we don’t have the past, we don’t have the future.  we have this moment right now.  so once in awhile you should live like you could drop dead tomorrow –because you could!  what is it all for?  it is for thinking about the future a bit –but it is also about thinking about now –it’s all you have that is guaranteed –right now.  go do it, go live.

the beauty of life is that we are given many internal signals –warning signs.  nothing happens without signals coming first.  we can avoid anything if we listen to these signals.  but, as imagined, most of these signals go unnoticed.  this is the difference between making it happen and not making it happen.  you need to be tuned in to what your gut is telling you.  if you are not tuned in, you will not have the life you desire.  many times we go off the track a bit –and it is the internal gut check that puts us back on the right track.  many times the gut check comes at night.  you wake up at 4 and your gut jumps right into the conversation.  this is when all the thoughts in the back of your mind come to the forefront.  even though you want to go back to sleep –you must listen to your thoughts sometimes –and this will help you see what the gut is saying and will help you make the right choice.  many times i have awakened after nights like this and i have listened to my gut and i have made the right decisions to put me back on track.  one of those decisions is to stay in the moderate mindset –stop going to the excess level –stop acting like you are still 20 -as it will catch up to you and it will steal precious time from your life in the long run.  i am reflecting and listening to my gut –to my 4am gut check –and it says to slow down and practice more moderation.  slow down and reflect more often –listen to your gut and act on what your gut is saying.  it will make a difference.  i am saying this–but now i must act–otherwise it won’t mean shit.  get it?