you must always be safe. you must always be alert to your safety and the safety of your loved ones. take that extra step and watch out for your loved ones. when a loved one is not able to always be safe, you must keep an eye out for them. one lapse in your safety watch could mean life or death. death can happen at any moment and it is always a surprise. you will not be warned that death is near. you will not have time to think about life or death. you must not hesitate in the moment of life or death. you must let your instinct take over. you must act without thinking to save a life. to avoid more moments like this, raise your alert level to a higher point. make the conscious effort to look again – to watch out for your loved ones. this will help prevent life or death moments. without saying, safety is the key to living longer. be on the lookout for danger at all times and you will be safe most of the time.
Category: Family
show love and support
you need to show love and support to the ones you love. you need to do this often. you need to take advantage of the moment and show love. this is the only time you will be able to show this love and support for this particular need at this particular moment. if you miss the moment, then you need to tell that person that you are sorry you missed the moment to support them – and then show that love and support at that moment of reconciliation. so often, a person is looking for that love and support and so often, we do not give it. this leads to a lifetime of missed moments and only creates more space between the 2 people — which is not a good thing when you want the relationship to last a lifetime. if you can recognize at the moment that love and support is needed, you are ahead of the process. but, this is a hard process to conquer. the better move is to get in the habit of showing love and support on a regular basis. this will help you cover those critical moments when love and support is needed the most. don’t get down on yourself for missing that moment today – go back and correct it at the first possible next moment together. then get in the habit of doing this regularly – and you will not miss this moment again and your love for each other will grow – rather than wither away by not being conscious of these things. these moments are very important to your own stability and the stability of others.
the gift of love
when someone loves you, you need to be very aware of that fact when you are dealing with them on a daily basis. because they love you, they will allow you to be negative towards them without any consequences. this is a gift they have given you and you cannot abuse this gift of unconditional love. and because you have this gift -this freedom to say what you want without consequences –you must be very careful not to abuse it. to abuse this gift is very easy to do. you see no consequences, so you lash out without thinking –and this just causes you to create habits of not being nice –of putting all of your insecurities on this person –in the form of being mean. this person will always love you and will never leave you. this makes the gift of unconditional love even more fragile. handle this gift with care and do not abuse this gift. if you do, then your loved ones will suffer and in the end –so will you. your life will have less meaning and you will be ashamed of your actions over the years. stop abusing this gift now.
be there for family
we all know that life is a journey. we all know that we ultimately have to take this journey alone–in each of our own minds. this is something we cannot change. the one thing that we can change that will help our lonely journey along is how we act on the outside –what actions do we take? we take action to do the right thing and to provide peace of mind –to know that you have done all that you can do –and that you think it is the right thing to do. this theory is most important when we are talking about family. you must try your hardest to be there for family. you must do what it takes to be with your family in a time of need –when someone is sick or troubled. this will obviously help your family members in their trials –but it will help you even more. to know that you are there for your family in a time of need is one of the greatest feelings in the world. these times that you are there for your family will stand out like shining markers in the long journey of your life. you will know that you did what you needed to do and you will feel more inner peace. this is how you succeed in life–this is how you fulfill your life –this is how you prepare for the end –so that you are ready when your time comes. be there for family and you will know why you are here on earth.
don’t be sad when they grow up
one of the hardest things in life is to let go of your children and let them fly on their own. but this is the only way you will be happy and they will be happy. when another birthday passes and they get older and older, you have a feeling of sadness. that is ok, that is natural. but you must not wish to keep them young. this will only cause heartache. instead look at how much they have grown and how much your relationship has grown. it will continue to grow and you will learn to love them more and more each year. you do not really want to go back in time and re-live the years when they were young and you were younger. you already did that. now you will have more fun when they are older and you are older –you will experience more interesting experiences and will be able to become much closer to them. you will relish these moments more than the one’s in the past. the older they get, the closer you will become to them –remember this and you will not be sad anymore, you will understand and you will smile. enjoy the fact that they understand you more and you understand them more. this is one of the keys to a happier life. just live it and you will see.
the scare
we will all experience the scare at one point in our lives. this is the moment when you think a loved one could be in danger of dying. this falls along the lines of the cancer scare, which almost always is just that — a scare. it is never usually the real thing. your loved one goes through tests and there are days/weeks of worry. you pray each night extra hard for this person, especially if this person is your child. if it is your child, then you are in the darkest scare of all. you want to give your life for your child. you don’t want to think about life without your child. you think about how everything will fall apart if something happens to your child. there is no way you can go on with your life if something does happen to your child. in your prayers, you make big promises to give up things to save your child. through all of this, your mission in life becomes very clear. you see that it is your family that is most important and not all the superficial things in life –money, power, success, material objects. these matter nothing if a child is lost. so, you must learn from this scare, you must keep the clear thoughts that happened during the scare –at the front of your mind. you must move away from these things in life that do not matter at all. you must focus on the things that do matter, which is helping your family thrive, which is enjoying the moments you have with your family, which is showing your family how to see clearly too. you are lucky it was a scare this time. don’t waste anymore time before the next scare becomes real. learn from the important lesson of the scare.
short temper
why do people have a short temper? it happens to me all the time, especially with the kids. who do i think i am to get upset so quickly with my kids, with my co-workers, with my neighbors, with even my friends and my family. is it because this is a reflection of my own frustrations within my own expectations of my life? i should be happy. life is not bad at all. (knock-knock) and yet i still go off the handle for no big deal. i think this is a sign of my immaturity. i do try to remain calm, not blab so much. but i do get hyper and excited about things –mostly for good things happening. but then i snap in the negative too. i start to label people –see them as hypocrites –not practicing what they preach, etc. i should not judge so much. i should not think so much. i should not control so much. i should stop expecting so much from others. i should just be. this is a hard way to learn, especially if it goes against your own nature. it will come with age –that is why older folks are so mellow. they don’t see the point in going off the handle anymore –it only leads to negativity. the trick is to learn this before you get too old –so that you can benefit from your early evolution. so that you can leave a positive impression on the lives of the ones you care about. yes, evolve sooner.
stop yelling
stop yelling at the kids and stop yelling at your spouse. this will only create issues for you and your kids and your spouse throughout their lives. it does not get you anywhere. be calm and speak calmly in a heated situation –which most of the time is not even worth being heated. it is only heated because you started yelling. it is unfortunate that we do seem to have short fuses and we take it out on our loved ones because they are not doing what you want them to do. take a chill pill. everything does not revolve around you. life keeps us moving fast and we tend to react fast to even the smallest things. we want fast results, we want fast action. so we yell. and we think yelling will get the point out faster or make that person move faster. end result is no good. stop yelling. better yet –tell yourself to stop yelling before you do start to yell. thanks.
family first
this is a bitch of a topic! i mean– my first and only approach in this area is to always put family first in everything you do. which you should always do. plus, you should always never judge family and always take the high road when it comes to family. at the end of the day –all you will have left is family –whether that is good or bad–it is the simple fact. you do not want to cause conflict with your family and you need to bite your tongue with your family –after all this is your family. the same family that you grew up with or the same family that you raised. there was a time in the beginning where you looked on to your family members with eyes of adoration. you looked at your baby or you looked at your mother with complete eyes of loyalty and devotion. you looked at your brother or you looked at your sister with love and affection. you used to laugh with your family, you used have fun with your family –back in the times of innocence and fresh starts. you never thought those days would end, you never thought conflict would arise, you never thought people would change. but things do change and phases of life come and go –and conflict can occur in family. this is when this concept will be tested –this concept of “family first”. do you take the high road if you have been wronged by family? do you never judge your family when judgement is called into question? do you forgive every time? we will all be challenged by family member actions. what do you do? you want your sister to call you after a fight because you think it was her fault. this leads to a rift developing –one that might never be healed. but, don’t play this BS game–call her up –take the high road each time and stop the rift. make family first because it is the right thing to do –it will make you a better person in the long run. the long-time love bond of family is always there –but sometimes you forget. put family first unless a crime has been committed. in that case, this concept goes out the window. they then become strangers and are no longer family.
keep kids safe
you know –life is dangerous –very dangerous –and it is a miracle that we make it to adulthood. so, how do you keep your kids safe? well –you can’t look at every little thing –but you can look at 3 main areas. It is a simple approach, but you must be vigilant. 3 things to be paranoid about to keep your kids safe — watch out for cars, watch out for strangers and watch out for drowning. if you can be proactive in these 3 areas –chances are your kids will be safe overall. oh–and tell your kids about these 3 things all the time –keep them at the top of their mind. don’t freak them out, but make them very aware. yeah, i know it is simple and obvious –but it ain’t obvious unless you pay attention and let the kids know of these areas. get it?